Ask Alee

Q: Recently a friend of mine has been making comments about people’s looks/weight around me, and talking about other people in a negative light to me. I don’t feel comfortable because it puts me in an awkward position. She has also been trying to get with people that I have said I’ve liked in the past and telling people some of the personal business that I have shared with her, but when I try to address the issue she blames it on her medical disorder and tries to pin the situation on me and make me feel bad. Now I know that it affects people differently but upon my research and having friends with the same disorder I have come to realize that she was just being very manipulative. Recently I have found out that she has been talking bad about me to my close friends and other people. Am I the bad person for wanting to end the friendship?

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this and in my opinion, you’re not a bad person for wanting to end the friendship. With all the issues you’ve listed, she does not sound like someone pleasant to be hanging around. I totally understand why you don’t want to be friends with her and I think you should definitely let her know that you don’t want to be friends with her and make sure you tell her why. 

When you tell her why, hopefully she’ll be able to understand why you decided to stop being friends with her instead of leaving her clueless and cause her to say even worse things about you. It’ll also probably help her become a better person once she understands how wrong a lot of the things she’s doing are. 

I hope everything works out well.